Ever wonder why your co-worker received a promotion in your job and you didn't? Yes, he or she could be a better worker than the rest of the crew in your office pool, a person that maybe went the extra mile in remaining late past the working hours, or maybe it's because of a little four letter word in Webster's Dictionary called "Nice". It is no surprise that those who hold this trait can move mountains more quickly than the determined person who will push and shove their way up the ladder of success, and break a few toes stepping on other people's feet in the workforce competition. Webster defines it as refined, subtle, pleasant, kind, good, so be it! It can open doors unimaginable in a world so filled with harsh competitors all wanting a piece of the cake, and eating it too. I once heard that when Mrs. Leona Helmsey, the once famed "Queen of Mean" hotel heiress, was sentence to prison for Tax evasion, people wondered why did they give her such a strict punishment, when people get away with much worst crimes? It's not because of the crime she committed, it is because she was such a "bitch"! There's a price to pay sooner or later when nasty dominates nice! I remained as a White House Decorator for twelve years, not because of my qualifications and credentials, I had none to begin with! I was only 24 years of age! I didn't know a rose from a tulip!
It's because my boss (the Chief White House Florist) found me to be "nice", so very nice to everyone, that it caught the eye of the First Lady! I earned the "keys to the White House", and became a celebrity nationwide for my designs, that I learned through creative visualization. So the next time you are working towards a promotion or trying to win over some new friends, remember what Lincoln once said, "You can get more bees with honey, than you can with oil". (Frank Lazzaro is a Motivational Speaker and Public Lecturer in Libraries and Organizations on Long Island on his fame White House years as a Florist Decorator)
Ever wonder why all of a sudden someone stops being as nice to you as they were once in the past? Or the personality of that individual has changed to such a degree that you no longer want to connect with them? Is it personality disorder or something you said to offend them? Whatever the situation may be, don't worry about it, I certainly wouldn't. I don't and will not miss anyone's friendship that it will make me sad, because, that said, I have borders around my lifestyle, and no one gets too close to my heart. I don't allow that. Maybe it's because of a hurt in the past, or whatever, the imaginary border is always there, around my arena, preventing anyone from getting too close and into my personal space. As I said over and over again in my creative visualization lecture, never let anyone take away your joy. So the next time you are engaged in conversation with people and you feel a negative, uncomfortable change in someone's behavior towards you, just accept them for what they are or, remember that song taken from the Broadway hit show with Carol Channing Hello Dolly, "Wave your little hand and whisper "so long Dearie, I should have said so long so long ago". Frank Lazzaro is a Long Island Motivational Speaker, Author and Lecturer on his famous seminar "A White House Photograph Tour with Frank Lazzaro". He is the former White House Floral Decorator for Three Presidents.
We are living in a age, where we should now be immune to anything that happens!
OFF THE RECORD! "We are not living in Oz anymore"! Aside from all the mayhem in Washington with this new Administration, and the terrible bombings around the world from these evil devils that walk this planet, it is truly a beautiful world if you believe it is. To help keep your stress at bay, and your blood pressure as normal as possible, we must disconnect our lives from all these negativity that haunts us everyday. My minimalism lifestyle doesn't allow me to be upset over these evils coming out of the woodwork. We must block them with creative visualization of a wall around our minds. Replace it with a happy thought. I know, everyday can't be Christmas, but do your best to replace with a positive joyful past event. Last month I declined an invitation to a good friend's wedding, because I just don't go to anymore of these events. Now my friend doesn't talk to me, even though I mailed him a "generous" wedding gift along with the declined invitation. It upset me for less than a half of a minute and was removed completely out of my mind via creative visualization. Unusual Behaviors in people I have accepted, knowing that twenty years from now, hopefully they will change. And if you are wondering why people do stupid things, well forget it, there's no answer. Like the young guy in my gym yesterday that came in next to my weight lifting workout in the next station with his ears plugged from his cell phone, texting and watching a video. He does a one minute weight lifting on the barbells sits down on the bench and texts for thirty minutes.Then gets up, one minute on the barbells again, and sits down and texts for another thirty minutes, while I am working and sweating my tail off with my own workout weights and observing him as I go along. I do believe by the time that young man is done for the day, he had exercise more coming out of his car to the gym doors that what he did with the weights. Do the math, dumber and more dumber everyday. Behaviors, just accept it, then block it from your mind, and carry on with your own life, and above all "just don't give a hoot what people do or think about you, not worth the stress in trying to figure them out"! Loose a friend, gain a friend. My father use to say to me, "Son, when you loose your shirt, and you will loose plenty of shirts, just go down to Montgomery Wards and buy yourself another shirt"! Enjoy the holiday weekend, I know I will.
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